To Tell the Truth!

To Tell the Truth!

 

One of my all time favorite spiritual mantra's is: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free. I know this originates from the bible, and there is most likely a variety of meanings given to it by countless theologians and ministers throughout the years. For me though, it is a spiritual mantra in that it is a concept that makes sense to me on a deep level. I was first aware of this many years ago when my best friend and I were both going through big changes in our lives. Those changes originated in our external world, but had brought us to a place of higher consciousness, and a longing for spiritual growth. We had a ritual that we called our " walking college". We would start our walk with a particular area in our lives we wanted to look at and learn more about. We were not interested in simply rehashing our issues, or getting hooked by our own or each other stories. Our quest was to find a truth, the kind of truth we had discovered would set us free; free from attachment, free from our limited beliefs, and free from the lying voice of the saboteur that was blocking us from fully experiencing the joy in our lives. This was the kind of freedom that only comes from the spiritual truth.

 

Last month in the Relationship Alchemy blog we explored our stories. We started the month off by looking at the benefits of story telling. The stories we have about ourselves and our place in the world is what gives our lives meaning. Sharing our stories with others is how we make connections, and learn about others and our own experiences. As the month progressed, we also did some digging into the way our stories, the one's we have about ourselves, the one’s we have about others, AND the stories we make up that other's have about us, can be positive or negative depending on our own interpretation.

 

The good news is we get to decide! The facts and circumstances of our past and present, and the dreams we have about the future are all greatly influenced by the way we THINK. We can frame the facts in a way that puts us in the victim role, or we can arrange them in such a way that no matter how negative the circumstance, we can say “that happened-didn't like it- not happening again, but glad I got the lesson”.

 

To help us take that positive way of thinking and use it in our relationships, I created

“ The Conversation Structure”. The intention of this is to help us to meet the world with our words either spoken, written, or silently held in a way that is positive. I created this structure about a year ago, after years of observing my clients and what got them into trouble in their relationships, and I have taught some of the elements of the structure in my classes and workshop. I am happy to report that It created a great deal of lively conversation and learning in my coaching circle and blog last week. 

 

One of the BIG learning’s that popped out during the week led me to this month’s Relationship Alchemy theme. A circle member was recounting how she had been able to use the work we had done on stories during the month to help her do some silent shifting of her words. She would catch herself telling a negative story mid stream, and she would stop and make the story one that was positive. When I asked her what she was feeling, she noticed when she did that her answer was profound. She said, " when I shifted to the positive, it felt like the truth". Bingo!  This is because there is no such thing as lack or limitation. That is a false construct. When we shift our words to the positive (which includes things we don't like, or that are not good for us, or that we no longer will tolerate) the truth is revealed. It is a truth that sets us free every single time!

 

This month's theme is… To Tell The Truth

How would you like to know your own truth and be able to speak it to others on a regular basis? To begin, you need to be focused on yourself, what you are feeling, and thinking.

Keep your attention on what you have instead of what you don’t have. Let go of concern about what other people think. Instead, focus on what the thinking is you have.

 

The Conversation Structure will help you to communicate what is important, what you have to say, and what you are feeling, in a way others can really hear you. Next week we will dissect The Conversation Structure to see just how to make this particular kind of truth- telling a life long habit. Then, The Conversation Structure helps to communicate what is important in a way others can really hear you.

 

Until then, begin by telling the truth to yourself!

 

cheers,

Kat

 

To Tell the Truth!

 

One of my all time favorite spiritual mantra's is: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free. I know this originates from the bible, and there is most likely a variety of meanings given to it by countless theologians and ministers throughout the years. For me though, it is a spiritual mantra in that it is a concept that makes sense to me on a deep level. I was first aware of this many years ago when my best friend and I were both going through big changes in our lives. Those changes originated in our external world, but had brought us to a place of higher consciousness, and a longing for spiritual growth. We had a ritual that we called our " walking college". We would start our walk with a particular area in our lives we wanted to look at and learn more about. We were not interested in simply rehashing our issues, or getting hooked by our own or each other stories. Our quest was to find a truth, the kind of truth we had discovered would set us free; free from attachment, free from our limited beliefs, and free from the lying voice of the saboteur that was blocking us from fully experiencing the joy in our lives. This was the kind of freedom that only comes from the spiritual truth.

 

Last month in the Relationship Alchemy blog we explored our stories. We started the month off by looking at the benefits of story telling. The stories we have about ourselves and our place in the world is what gives our lives meaning. Sharing our stories with others is how we make connections, and learn about others and our own experiences. As the month progressed, we also did some digging into the way our stories, the one's we have about ourselves, the one’s we have about others, AND the stories we make up that other's have about us, can be positive or negative depending on our own interpretation.

 

The good news is we get to decide! The facts and circumstances of our past and present, and the dreams we have about the future are all greatly influenced by the way we THINK. We can frame the facts in a way that puts us in the victim role, or we can arrange them in such a way that no matter how negative the circumstance, we can say “that happened-didn't like it- not happening again, but glad I got the lesson”.

 

To help us take that positive way of thinking and use it in our relationships, I created

“ The Conversation Structure”. The intention of this is to help us to meet the world with our words either spoken, written, or silently held in a way that is positive. I created this structure about a year ago, after years of observing my clients and what got them into trouble in their relationships, and I have taught some of the elements of the structure in my classes and workshop. I am happy to report that It created a great deal of lively conversation and learning in my coaching circle and blog last week. 

 

One of the BIG learning’s that popped out during the week led me to this month’s Relationship Alchemy theme. A circle member was recounting how she had been able to use the work we had done on stories during the month to help her do some silent shifting of her words. She would catch herself telling a negative story mid stream, and she would stop and make the story one that was positive. When I asked her what she was feeling, she noticed when she did that her answer was profound. She said, " when I shifted to the positive, it felt like the truth". Bingo!  This is because there is no such thing as lack or limitation. That is a false construct. When we shift our words to the positive (which includes things we don't like, or that are not good for us, or that we no longer will tolerate) the truth is revealed. It is a truth that sets us free every single time!

 

This month's theme is… To Tell The Truth

How would you like to know your own truth and be able to speak it to others on a regular basis? To begin, you need to be focused on yourself, what you are feeling, and thinking.

Keep your attention on what you have instead of what you don’t have. Let go of concern about what other people think. Instead, focus on what the thinking is you have.

 

The Conversation Structure will help you to communicate what is important, what you have to say, and what you are feeling, in a way others can really hear you. Next week we will dissect The Conversation Structure to see just how to make this particular kind of truth- telling a life long habit. Then, The Conversation Structure helps to communicate what is important in a way others can really hear you.

 

Until then, begin by telling the truth to yourself!

 

Cheers,

Kat