How you gonna make a dream come true?

Today is June 1 and I am making my first blog entry! I love the month of June for many reasons. It could be because it is the month of my birthday or the time of year when school is out and summer begins.
I have also been typed as a “summer personality” for what that’s worth. Summer people tend to be romantic and are slow and steady in nature.

So I am beginning the Relationship Alchemy Blog today with an exploration of Dreams, which is my theme for June. The Relationship Alchemy Blog is an offshoot of a coaching circle where I work with extraordinary women who want to have it all. A good romantic experience, wonderful work and lots of fun. Every month we have a theme that is our focus as they work towards their…dreams.

So what are dreams and what makes them come true? When it comes to romantic dreams that is certainly the twenty thousand dollar question wouldn’t you say. If I can tell you exactly how to make your dreams come true it just might be worth your while to read on for a few minutes or to follow along this month.

I can and will tell you over the course of this month and that is a promise. You may not like what I have to say however so this is a warning. If you would rather be ignorant of the real dream making process stop here.

If you are ready to take responsibility for making your dreams come true than I believe we are going to get along just fine as this is my area of expertise. I have done it for myself all my life and over the past ten years I have helped countless people achieve their own dreams romantic and otherwise.

For some reason I have a jumble of show tunes in my head this morning. “June is bustin out all Over” from Carousel which makes sense and then there is the refrain“ you gotta have a dream… if you don’t have a dream ….how you gonna make a dream come true” from South Pacific that just won’t leave me alone.

I guess that is as good as any place to begin the dream making process. You do “gotta have a dream” and the place many people go wrong is picking dreams that really aren’t going to make them happy.

They either achieve this dream or then are disappointed so they stop going after dreams or they don’t achieve the dream and they are disappointed and they stop going after dreams.

Step number one: Heads Up..This may take much longer than you would like it to! You first need to spend some time looking at the many possibilities that are appealing to make sure this is a dream that comes from your heart. Sounds like a cliché I know. It is essential though, if you really want to make your dream come true. How can you tell if it is a heart or head dream you may be asking. That leads me to the next step.

Step number two: Pay attention to how it feels. When you think about it. When you imagine it happening. What is the feeling you have? Head dreams usually feel hard or sometimes they feel good in an empty or ego driven way. Good but not delightful, yummy or peaceful. Heart dreams feel that way. Good in a quiet but inspiring kind of way.

Step number three: You need to be unattached to the outcome. To really be able to put in the effort needed to make a dream come true you can’t be attached to how it is going to look. Or, how long it is going to take to come to fruition. Heart Dreams come from an essence place where the details just don’t matter. If we force things to conform to our time frame or our idea of how they are supposed to be they never turn out well. Focus instead on the experience you want to have. There is a mystery to the dream making process and it requires us to be unattached to what we think the outcome should be.

Those are the first three steps to the Relationship Alchemy dream making process. Pick a dream Idea and check out the heart head component. Spend some time thinking about it and checking out how it feels. Keep your focus on the experience instead of the outcome.

If you have read this far I have faith you will be able to make the best possible dreams come true for yourself!

Kat Knecht